Finally, Our First Full-Swap

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Marcel Duchamp ‘Nude Descending a Staircase No.2’ 1912

HIM: Swapping partners wasn’t part of any master plan as we set out on our great sexual adventure. I guess the truth is that we had no particular destination in mind, and that was probably a good thing. We simply put one foot in front of the other, together, just to see where the path would take us. Who would have guessed that watching each other fuck someone else would become our obsession? 

By the second half of 2015 we were both feeling like the full-swap experience was the natural next step for us. We were hoping to kind of fall into a foursome, maybe on vacation or at a sex club. But for those six months nothing really happened, except for a spontaneous soft swap experience on our summer trip to Hedonism II in Jamaica.  Clearly, a more direct approach was required.

HER: Just after New Years 2016, we decided to revisit the world of online dating, and that changed the game. It certainly didn’t take us long to find another couple who was suitably fuckable. A mere month after we set up our profile, Brandon and Nadia contacted us online. Right away we liked their artsy, outdoorsy pictures. We were also drawn to their desire for intelligent humour, multi-faceted creativity, and easy-going adventures. Like us, they wanted a ‘friends with benefits’ relationship. It’s nice to hear your own wish list coming almost verbatim from someone else. We got back to them and set up dinner for a few days later.

HIM: We considered it a good sign that they were able to book something right away.  Dinner itself was pleasant – no fireworks, I would say, but no alarm bells either. Nadia had her blond hair up in a tight bun, and she wore a high-necked dress that wasn’t giving much away. She certainly wasn’t sending a very sexual vibe, but she was pretty, and he was tall and slim with an easy smile. They were both passionate about the work they did, which was all about helping people. It was a promising start.

HER: On the way home, you and I talked about whether we felt enough of a connection to see them again. I wasn’t sure until I said out loud that we could have them to our place that weekend, and, as I said the words, I got a little wet. I guess I hadn’t realized how exciting the idea of sleeping with them was until it was a real possibility with a concrete timeline.  We sent them a text from the car, and they jumped at the invite to dinner and a potential sleep-over that weekend.

HIM: The day of their visit, I had been feeling very relaxed. When they arrived, I was struck by how much more glamorous Nadia looked with her hair down. You made us a delicious, light meal and we chatted in an unhurried way for a few hours. At a certain point I noticed you had disappeared, so I suggested to Brandon that he go look for you – hoping, of course, that some spontaneous indiscretion might break out. Before he left, he said something contrived (but mildly charming) about me and Nadia having our first kiss.

I looked at her and she gave me an encouraging smile as her husband left the room. I leaned forward to kiss her and she did that yes/no thing you see in movies – our lips had almost touched when she pulled sharply away, then she came in slowly for a full kiss before drawing back again dramatically. She whispered that she had wanted to kiss me since she arrived as her hands explored my torso appreciatively.  The yes/no thing continued, however. I guess it was meant to be playful and teasing, but I found it frustrating that we couldn’t establish any kind of groove. I was also aware that her breath wasn’t great – mine was probably equally unfresh from having eaten the same dinner. In spite of it all, I felt myself beginning to get hard as she pressed her lithe body into mine.

HER: I had actually run upstairs to light some candles in the bedroom as I sensed the dinner conversation was wrapping up. As I lit the last one Brandon appeared and said something about you and Nadia having your first kiss downstairs. We started kissing ourselves, and clothes quickly fell away. I was hesitant to take my lingerie off before you got there, but you were taking a long time and he eventually removed my bra. Finally, as he kissed my pussy through my panties, you and Nadia walked through the door. Better late than never.

HIM: Nadia’s hands were all over me as we walked up the stairs, and at one point she dug her nails hard into my side. I get that some people like a little dash of pain with their pleasure, but I’m not one of them. When we came into the room and saw you and Brandon tangled up on the bed, Nadia got on her knees and started to undo my pants.  When she took my cock into her mouth, it was half erect.  Actually, it was actuall half flaccid, and headed in the wrong direction. There was nothing wrong with her technique, I just wasn’t feeling it. Was it the funny kissing thing, or the breath, or the digging nails that had thrown me off? I was having a truly Seinfeldian moment, obsessing over trivialities as a hot, naked woman gave me enthusiastic oral. I tried not to let it bother me and steered her onto the bed beside you and Brandon.

HER: I did like seeing your cock in Nadia’s mouth, and it looked pretty big, so I thought everything was going well.

HIM: She was frankly doing everything right – she whispered that she loved my cock, she caressed me tenderly, she moaned and groaned, she scratched and bit me, she sat on my face…like the 3rd Marine Division at Iwo Jima, she steadfastly refused to surrender. At a certain point, though, I figured out that it just wasn’t going to happen. While I had been hard during our previous soft-swap experiments, apparently the prospect of a full-swap was proving too much for my system to handle.

HER: Eventually I realized you weren’t hard, but there was so much activity on your side of the bed that I knew that at least you weren’t moping. Brandon got it up without too much delay as I went down on him. He fucked Nadia for a while, then turned back to me and was holding me really tightly as we kissed. It was like a whole body dry-hump. Does that sound lame? It was actually pretty hot. All that intense passion made me desperate to have a cock inside me. He mentioned condoms, and I looked to you to see how you felt.

HIM: I asked you if you wanted him to fuck you. I wanted you to be happy, of course, but I also thought it might be my last chance to get back in the game. Hearing you say you wanted another man, and watching you fuck him, would normally be a guaranteed turn on for me. You answered yes, breathlessly and with eyes glazed. Brandon fucked you with abandon, which you seemed to enjoy immensely, but it barely registered for me. The psycho-chemical forces at war with my libido were undeterred by the hot scene playing out in front of me.

HER: He entered me from behind, which is my usual orgasm position. But then Nadia crawled on his back as you licked her from behind. While it was fun to look in our mirrored headboard and see a pile of naked people, I didn’t get close to orgasm. It’s pretty rare for it to happen in any first encounter with someone new, but it’s even harder when you’ve got the combined weight of three adults bearing down on your back. It was still very satisfying, though, and the sensations were great.  Brandon came and things gradually settled into pleasant conversation. I always enjoy the ‘afterglow’ with you, but it’s one of my favorite parts of our adventures with other people so far. The intimacy, the laughter, the closeness…the brownies.

HIM: Oh, the brownies! We forgot that you had made them for dinner and now we were enjoying them as a post-coital treat. It certainly seemed like the main event was over. Nadia cuddled closely with me under the covers as we all talked and ate, and it occurred to me that different people want different things from these encounters. Yes, I want to be the rock-hard stud who can satisfy a village full of lusty women, but I was aware of the possibility that this particular woman might have found the closeness we were sharing the most fulfilling part. Maybe I was giving her exactly what she wanted most from the experience.

HER: After a while, real life crept back into my awareness, and I walked back downstairs naked to clean up from dinner. I hate leaving dishes until the morning. After a few minutes Brandon came down. We made small talk in the kitchen, and he came in for a hug. He was clearly ready to go again. But I declined – I never want to do anything without your knowledge and permission. He was very understanding. He went downstairs to our spare bedroom to sleep and I went back upstairs. What I saw when I entered our room was not what I had expected.

HIM: A strange thing had transpired while you were gone. Nadia and I had stayed in platonic cuddle mode, and we were lying side-by-side when Brandon left. The second he walked out the bedroom door, however, leaving us alone for the first time, everything changed. Nadia placed her hand lightly on my hip and I felt an immediate current of lust run through my body. I edged over slightly to encourage her to move her hand closer to my swelling cock, and by the time she touched it I was fully hard. She started to stroke, then suck, my erect penis. I was loving it. When she straddled me, it was clear that she was offering to mount me. I really wanted her to do it, to be honest, but I knew that you would feel I had betrayed an understanding between us even though we hadn’t actually contemplated this exact scenario. She went back to sucking my cock, which I was enjoying greatly, when I heard your footsteps on the stairs.

HER: I have to say it was a shock. A small part of my brain screamed, “Seriously?  It takes me leaving the room for you to finally get hard? That’s so not cool!”. But another part of me was happy that you would finally get a chance to do your thing. I grabbed a condom and put it on you as I guided your cock inside her. I was weirdly proud of you, but the sexual energy had ebbed for me. That was my first experience of watching you fuck another woman.

HIM: By this stage there was no way I’d be able to get to orgasm, but it was belatedly gratifying all the same. It did raise some questions, though, about exactly how my arousal response is programmed. Did Brandon’s departure finally relieve the competitive pressure? Had I felt too inhibited to freely enjoy another woman when you were still in the room? Did all the cuddling finally make me feel connected to Nadia? Or was it — as concerned both of us, for different reasons — the lure of the forbidden?  It was something we talked a lot about in the days that followed.

About Him and Her

We are a married couple, very much in love, writing about our sexual explorations.
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7 Responses to Finally, Our First Full-Swap

  1. hubman38 says:

    Veronica and I opened our marriage almost 8 years ago, but reading this post brings me right back to our first full swap, in which my physical response mirrored yours, much to my surprise. Sometimes, it still happens, I think it’s my bodies way of telling me the chemistry isn’t right but my brain thinks that it is.

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  2. bbuck says:

    I likewise had the same response. Still happens…. I chalked it up to your head being in totally different place then when you are with your wife of 20 years…. She said she had agreed but ladies have been known to change their minds… It also takes on a feeling that you are now intrinsically changing your primary relationship and how will that fall out over time? All of that is a real boner killer Lol. We went to full swap swinging about a year ago. In our relationship our highs are much higher but our lows, although infrequent now, are lower too. The only thing I can assure you of is that your life won’t be boring.

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  3. Sounds awesome. You never know when it’s your time!

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  4. Magnum says:

    Sir, having started swinging 2 years ago as a single man I can tell you that your sexual response will be different in every situation. Pressure and anxiety are huge erection killers. You might find that you are more comfortable in a one-on-one with a new partner because it’s familiar. More connection might also help you. Oh and Tic-Tacs. 🙂

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  5. Klint says:

    Hot, as usual. I’m a fan of your work (and lives!).

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  6. I like the thoughts around how your “arousal response is programmed”. It does seem to be different for us all. Id say as a female in this position we frequently feel like it’s our fault, or we didn’t do something right. That’s tough to get over when you’re first starting out!

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