Swingers Take Italy

Marc Chagall, Nude Over Vitebsk, 1933 HIM: There are two kinds of travellers. Tourists take in all the sights, but never get past the superficial. They remain outsiders. Adventurers connect with real people. They get to see things from an insider’s perspective. We always talk about how much the lifestyle has changed the way we…

Anal Sex

Anal sex hasn’t exactly been an obsession of mine. While I think of it as very intimate, the act itself just doesn’t seem worth all the trouble. Every guide to anal sex talks about the importance of going slow, and using lots of lube, because the potential for pain and injury is always present. That seems like a lot of distraction when you’re just trying to have some fun.

Podcast-A-Palooza

What was Podcast-A-Palooza, you ask?  Well, it was all about meeting and sharing and learning, to be sure, but it ultimately led to podcasters doing dirty things to other podcasters.

Four Crazy Weekends

We’ve been very busy. In fact, last month was one for the record books – four lifestyle events, four weekends in a row.

The Hot-Button issue of ‘Hot-Wifing’

Anyone who knows me well knows that I have a hard-on (figuratively) for all things British. So when a very handsome man who lives close by says that he’s an actor from England, well, the next sentence practically writes itself: “Would you like to get together for a drink sometime?”

Sex Party Etiquette

House parties are cool mainly because they are so efficient. It’s like dating at warp speed because you can connect with a number of different couples in a single evening. But to get the most out of it, everyone has to play by the rules.

Nude Pool Party IV: Perfection

  HER:  If you’re a member of the lifestyle community, you may have attended events and fantasized about being the one at the centre of it all. You may even have looked around and thought, ‘If I were the host, I’d do it better’. Well, we were arrogant enough to believe that of ourselves, but,…

Unprotected Sex

The question of unprotected sex is easy for most lifestyle commentators. Just never, ever do it. The risk of an STD is simply too great. But like most easy answers, the reality is somewhat messier.

Niagara Hotel Take Over

HER: There we were: three couples on two beds in our poolside hotel room, playing and swapping, with a growing audience of appreciative onlookers watching through the large picture window. It was one of the hottest experiences we have ever had in the lifestyle, and definitely the highlight of our weekend in Niagara Falls.

Are Lifestyle Friendships Real Friendships?

HER: A Twitter friend recently posted a comment she found in an online forum. The contributor basically said that lifestyle people are some of the most enjoyable people she has been around, but that, in the end, these people have only one thing on their minds. And because it’s all about the sex, it’s hard…