We spend a lot of time thinking about, talking about, and reading about sex. Here are some voices we value. Their years of research and education will lend the expertise we lack and give you some more food for thought.
Edward Fernandes, Ph.D., has studied swingers for 20 years. He writes “The Swinging Paradigm: The evolution of consensual non-monogamy” in a way that is fair-minded and accurate (in our experience).
Dan Savage, who coined the term “Monogamish,” is a sex columnist we have long followed and borrowed from liberally. His columns and videos are easy to find, but this comprehensive article is an excellent introduction to his life and views.
Esther Perel is a psychotherapist whose bestselling book Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic explores the conflict between freedom and security in relationships. We have watched her Ted Talks many times, and they always spark interesting conversations.
Michele Weiner-Davis, the self-styled ‘Divorce Buster’ and marriage counselor may have over-stated her ability to save every marriage, but her acknowledgment of the importance of sex in long-term relationships and her discussion of the ‘sex-starved marriage’ is valuable.
If Podcasts are your thing, we like the thoughtful perspectives and style of these shows:
Mr and Mrs Jones on We Gotta Thing
C and D on Swinging Downunder
Emma and Finn on Normalizing Non-Monogamy
Paige and Penn on The Swinger Diaries