Other Voices

If Podcasts are your thing, we like the thoughtful perspectives and style of these lifestyle shows. And we can personally verify that they’re all wonderful people.

Mr and Mrs Jones on We Gotta Thing are the place to start if you’re new to the lifestyle. Their show is geared toward ‘newbies’ and everything you need to know as you dip your toes into swinging.

Cait and Darryl on Swinging Downunder cover the gamut of topics, from sexy stories to deep questions to interviews. No matter the subject, you’ll be entertained by Cait’s valiant attempts to keep Darryl on track.

Emma and Finn on Normalizing Non-Monogamy interview interesting people from the wide world of non-monogamy. They put out a new episode every week, and each one is sure to be a fascinating look into someone else’s lifestyle journey.

Paige and Penn on Swinger Diaries answer all the questions you’ve wondered but never asked about swinging, and they finish each episode with a sexy diary entry to keep you coming back for more.

Jay and Kay on That Couple Next Door are all about telling their sexy stories, and they never have a shortage of amazing adventures to recount.

If you prefer a more academic approach, here are some resources we value. Their years of research and education will lend the expertise we lack and give you some more food for thought.

Edward Fernandes, Ph.D., has studied swingers for 20 years.  He writes “The Swinging Paradigm: The evolution of consensual non-monogamy” in a way that is fair-minded and accurate (in our experience).

Women, Swinging, Sex, and Seduction

Are Swingers Freaky and Deviant?

The Swinging Paradigm (full journal article)

Dan Savage, who coined the term “Monogamish,” is a sex columnist we have long followed and borrowed from liberally.  His columns and videos are easy to find, but this comprehensive article is an excellent introduction to his life and views.

Dan Savage on the Virtues of Infidelity

Esther Perel is a psychotherapist whose bestselling book Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic explores the conflict between freedom and security in relationships.  We have watched her Ted Talks many times, and they always spark interesting conversations.

The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship

Rethinking Fidelity

Michele Weiner-Davis, the self-styled ‘Divorce Buster’ and marriage counselor may have over-stated her ability to save every marriage, but her acknowledgment of the importance of sex in long-term relationships and her discussion of the ‘sex-starved marriage’ is a valuable conversation starter if you’re struggling to connect sexually.

The Sex-Starved Marriage Ted Talk