A Letter from My Former Self

If it doesn’t overwhelm you, the bittersweet ache of longing can provide the impetus to make difficult changes

Online Dating for Couples

I imagined us meeting the perfect couple, sharing a connection that moved effortlessly between the social and the sexual.

What’s Your Number?

I have very uncomplicated feelings about women who enjoy sex: I approve whole-heartedly.

Naked Pictures

You’re beautiful, you’re game for anything, and I think you have a certain grace that the camera likes.

Keeping Secrets

HER:  We had a party at our house recently where, in a haze of whisky-laced apple cider and white wine, I told my siblings that we had tried sex clubs and vacationed at Hedonism.  They all had the same conservative, religious upbringing I did, but, like me, they’re all very sexual and pretty liberal in their views. …

The Upside of Divorce

HER: We’ve all heard the statistics that tell us half of marriages today end in divorce (the actual stats are 41% of first marriages, 60% of second, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce).  This is frightening if you are on the verge of marriage or reaching the age of 30: the average age…

The Quantified Sex Life

  HER: There’s been a lot of talk lately about ‘The Quantified Life.’ I’ve heard a radio show and a TED talk about it just this week. There are apps to track your steps, caloric intake, sleep patterns, running, good deeds … and your sex life! Him and HerLiam & Kate are a married couple,…

The Sex-Starved Marriage

HER: While surfing Twitter, I came across a TED Talk by Michele Weiner-Davis. In her presentation, she talks about what happens when people’s sex drives are unequally matched. She seemed to so perfectly describe your previous situation in her video ‘The Sex-Starved Marriage’. Him and HerLiam & Kate are a married couple, very much in love, writing…

The Monogamish Marriage

HER: It doesn’t take a genius to recognize that the institution of matrimony is in crisis. For years now, divorce rates have been rising, marriage rates declining, and as many as 70% of unions have experienced infidelity … whether both partners were aware of it or not. Therapists, religious leaders, self-help authors, and well-meaning friends all…