If opening up your relationship is a fantasy you hope to make a reality, you might imagine that having sex with other people is all fun and easy. Just mix three or more horny people together and let the carnal geometry unfold. If only!
The empathy piece is a big factor for both of us. Maybe we struggle to come from oral simply because it’s hard for us to sit back and greedily enjoy anything. We’re both givers by nature, not takers. Maybe we’re just too nice to be good swingers.
It’s alarming for a man when you see a boob and it’s erotically indistinguishable from an elbow. When your wife says, “I’ll do anything you want,” and you can’t actually think of anything that would turn you on, you feel a deep sense of panic. But I wasn’t the only one who was struggling to get sexually motivated.
HER: Like many women, I have watched in horror and awe the events of the last year. The wave of protests and #MeToo stories sparked by the Harvey Weinstein case (which broke almost exactly one year ago) seemed to crash over the rocks of the recent Brett Kavenaugh confirmation hearings. Just when we thought things…
HIM: We recently watched the movie ‘Weiner’, a documentary directed by Josh Kriegman and Elyse Steinberg. You probably remember the story of Anthony Weiner, the New York state congressman who fell from grace in 2011 after sexting a picture of his bulging underwear to a woman who was not his wife. Two years after that…
I remember thinking that it was pretty bold of him to attempt the rough stuff on our first time together, but he got it just right. It was only later that I realized he had studied up in advance.
It was a sad epiphany: I realized that an erection was a deeply mysterious involuntary reflex.
I actually enjoyed redecorating the bedroom with you – how much more fun would it be working on your new breasts together?
Low self-esteem comes in many varieties, and you will get to know your own unique brand if you spend any time in the lifestyle.
If it doesn’t overwhelm you, the bittersweet ache of longing can provide the impetus to make difficult changes
You’re beautiful, you’re game for anything, and I think you have a certain grace that the camera likes.
HER: Before our last trip to Jamaica, I went for a session of laser hair removal. It was a thoughtful Christmas gift from you. You knew I hated the red bikini bumps, and the last time I had the area waxed, it was so painful I swore I’d never do it again. Lasers, you thought, might…