The Pants On/Pants Off Transition

HIM: In almost every lifestyle situation, there is a potentially awkward moment: the transition from ‘pants on’ fun to ‘pants off’ fun. After eight years, you’d think we’d have a formula worked out, but we don’t.  We always seem to be making it up as we go along, as if every time is the first…

Our DIY Lifestyle Vacation

HER: One of the most frustrating consequences of the Covid-19 pandemic has been the shut down of non-essential travel. For us, that included the cancellation of lifestyle events like ‘Podcast-A-Palooza’  and ‘Naughty in ‘Nawlins’. Although resorts such as Desire and Hedonism have reopened, we felt that getting together with large numbers of strangers was just…

Shame and Vulnerability

Sex is about vulnerability. We take off our clothes — our armour — and expose the most delicate parts of ourselves to each other. When we think of our earliest ancestors, living on the African savanna, having sex involved putting their very lives at risk.

Emerging from COVID Isolation

HER: The last few months have been some of the strangest of our lives. The COVID-19 pandemic has effectively shut down the world. For many of us, it’s been the most concentrated time we’ve ever spent at home with our partners. And, as people who have been in the lifestyle since the very beginning of…

Adding Bondage to the Mix

When you think about it, the whole BDSM scene is about consensual violence, a total oxymoron if ever there was one. 

Sexy Spa Sunday

The most interesting toy by far was one that another couple brought: an electro play set. It had sticky pads attached to a device that delivered varying levels of voltage directly to the skin. We passed it around and most people tried it on their arms or some other low-risk body part. I was daring enough to pull down my yoga pants and try it on my clit.

Desire Diaries: A Voyeur’s Paradise

  HIM: If someone asked me to list my sexual interests in order of preference, voyeurism wouldn’t be anywhere near the top. I’ve definitely had some good times watching other people have sex, but overall, I think I get more turned on by what’s going on inside my head than what others are doing around…

Sex on MDMA

So, this was it, that thing that everyone talks about! That amazing space where every touch, every smell, sets off fireworks in your senses.

My First Double Penetration

So there I was on top of you, carefully positioned so he could straddle your legs while still being between mine. It took a few adjustments, but he eventually got in and started thrusting. It was crazy intense!

The Single Male Experience

I know we did cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, doggy-style, him doing me from behind with me hanging my head over the edge of the bed, spooning, then positioned at the end of the bed so we could both watch him enter me in the mirrored headboard. We both loved that.