Category Archives: Relationships

Naughty in N’awlins

At one party, I was grinding with a dude who told me to check out his shorts. It felt like he had a baseball bat on his leg! He grabbed my ass and asked how much I could take. I said nine inches was about my max. He said ‘I’m packing at least ten, but I promise to be gentle’. Continue reading

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Swingers Take Italy

Marc Chagall, Nude Over Vitebsk, 1933 HIM: There are two kinds of travellers. Tourists take in all the sights, but never get past the superficial. They remain outsiders. Adventurers connect with real people. They get to see things from an … Continue reading

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Anal Sex

Anal sex hasn’t exactly been an obsession of mine. While I think of it as very intimate, the act itself just doesn’t seem worth all the trouble. Every guide to anal sex talks about the importance of going slow, and using lots of lube, because the potential for pain and injury is always present. That seems like a lot of distraction when you’re just trying to have some fun. Continue reading

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Breaking The Rules

I, as usual, was the first person naked at our party. I lay on the massage table with two handsome men rubbing me down, one of whom took his cock out so I could suck it while he stroked my breasts. Continue reading

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Mind the Gap: Age Differences in the Lifestyle

We’re 57 and 42, for the record. Age has always been something we have to think about a little more than the average couple. If I had been eighteen and you thirty-three when we got together, it would have been scandalous. Fifteen and thirty, and it would have been illegal! Continue reading

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Four Crazy Weekends

We’ve been very busy. In fact, last month was one for the record books – four lifestyle events, four weekends in a row. Continue reading

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The Hot-Button issue of ‘Hot-Wifing’

Anyone who knows me well knows that I have a hard-on (figuratively) for all things British. So when a very handsome man who lives close by says that he’s an actor from England, well, the next sentence practically writes itself: “Would you like to get together for a drink sometime?” Continue reading

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Dick Pics

HIM: We recently watched the movie ‘Weiner’, a documentary directed by Josh Kriegman and Elyse Steinberg. You probably remember the story of Anthony Weiner, the New York state congressman who fell from grace in 2011 after he tweeted a picture … Continue reading

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Pool Party IV: Perfection

HER:  If you’re a member of the lifestyle community, you may have attended events and fantasized about being the one at the centre of it all. You may even have looked around and thought, ‘If I were the host, I’d … Continue reading

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Unprotected Sex

The question of unprotected sex is easy for most lifestyle commentators. Just never, ever do it. The risk of an STD is simply too great. But like most easy answers, the reality is somewhat messier. Continue reading

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