Strong Feelings: My Wife Finds a Girlfriend

HER: The English language does not have an adequate word for that emotional place between ‘like’ and ‘love’. You know, that vast territory between I like my neighbor and I love my husband. Colloquially, we talk about feeling butterflies, crushing on someone, catching feels, or being ‘twitterpated‘ (thanks to Bambi). You and I dealt with the…

Miami Diaries — Black N Kinky

  In May 2021 we spoke at a lifestyle gathering in Miami called Podcast-A-Palooza. One hundred swinger couples from across North America gathered for three days of seminars and partying in South Beach. Unofficially, the event served as a kind of coming-out party after the privations of the Covid-19 pandemic. For us, it was four…

Dealing with Jealousy

HER: “We are jealous animals.” That’s how Dr Helen Fisher explained her belief that open marriages don’t work when she was interviewed on a Canadian radio documentary called ‘How to Survive the Dating Apocalypse’. She said she would never entertain the idea of an open relationship herself because she is just “too jealous.” Clearly, claiming…

Big. Black. Cock.

It was a great first date. He was tall, handsome and an easy conversationalist with an interesting job.

Our First FMF Threesome

Our first threesome together was my first, but it wasn’t yours. You came to our relationship with a friend who was good to go.

The Greatest Threesome in the History of the World

  HIM: When we were writing our article ‘The Quantified Sex Life’ a couple of weeks ago, I got caught up reading through the notes section of the sex log I keep. Usually I just jot down a sentence or two for each entry to help my memory, though occasionally I will try to capture what…

Our MFM Experiment: Getting it Right

HIM: Six weeks after our disastrous first experience with another man, we got a text from Derek saying he had some ideas about how we could do things differently if we wanted to try again. I met him for lunch to discuss them, and he suggested that we take some pictures of you as an…

Our First MFM Threesome: Part Two

HER: Two days before our first MFM threesome (two men/one woman) was to happen, we fell into having a threesome with my best friend, Malissa, by accident. A day around the pool without kids turned into naked swimming, then touching and then a trip to the bedroom. It turned out to be our best (and…

Our First MFM Threesome: Part One

HIM: It’s sometimes tempting to feel that your sexual fantasies are set very early on in life. After all, how many possibilities are there? How many body parts? How many positions before you get into the purely gymnastic? But I have to say that the thing that turns me on the most at present is…