HER: A Twitter friend recently posted a comment she found in an online forum. The contributor basically said that lifestyle people are some of the most enjoyable people she has been around, but that, in the end, these people have only one thing on their minds. And because it’s all about the sex, it’s hard…
Author: Him and Her
Liam & Kate are a married couple, very much in love, writing honestly and insightfully about their adventures in the world of non-monogamy.
Hedo Diaries: An Older Woman
HIM: The other day I accidentally pushed the wrong button on my phone and the forward facing camera clicked on. The image of an old man suddenly appeared on the screen. My immediate thought was that I looked pretty good for a 70 year old. The problem is, I’m just 56. HER: Oh, baby, I’m…
Men and Affairs
HIM: In the April 6th edition of The New York Times, I read an impressive article by Karin Jones entitled What Sleeping With Married Men Taught Me About Infidelity. First of all, simply writing the piece under her own name (The New York Times does not allow pseudonyms) required a rare level of bravery. Being…
The Perfect On-Line Profile
HER: Ten years ago, people would cringe when they admitted they had met online (if they admitted to it at all). Today, it’s surprising when new couples actually meet the old fashioned way: in person, by accident. With so much of our lives lived on the internet, it makes sense that we would look for…
Dealing with Jealousy
HER: “We are jealous animals.” That’s how Dr Helen Fisher explained her belief that open marriages don’t work when she was interviewed on a Canadian radio documentary called ‘How to Survive the Dating Apocalypse’. She said she would never entertain the idea of an open relationship herself because she is just “too jealous.” Clearly, claiming…
Unleashing the Swinger Within
Like most people, I can tell when I’m being sold, and I push back instinctively. The key to my change of heart was that I never felt coerced or manipulated.
Who Can You Trust?
When something exciting happens to me, my first instinct is to tell someone about it. But what if that amazing thing was that you had eight people in your basement last weekend all tangled up in your first orgy? Who can you tell?
The Instruction Manual: What Turns Us On
I remember thinking that it was pretty bold of him to attempt the rough stuff on our first time together, but he got it just right. It was only later that I realized he had studied up in advance.
A Lady’s Advice for Gentlemen in the Lifestyle
Bowing out graciously is preferable to beating a dead horse. She might even be more impressed by your grace under pressure than if you fucked her like the stud you desperately wanted to be.
Nude Pool Party III: The Orgy
It was my orgy fantasy come true. Kissing, licking, stroking, squeezing: I might not know whose hands or lips those were, but it didn’t matter because I liked and trusted all those women.
Hedo Diaries: Getting Ditched
One of the things I’ve enjoyed most about the lifestyle since we’ve been involved are the little moments of grace that happen without warning.
Nude Pool Party II
I leaned over to suck Justin’s cock and, what do you know – there was Brian’s hand guiding it into my mouth! As you know, I love guy-on-guy action, but I don’t think Justin was feeling too enthusiastic. In fact, when I asked him later he said, “I just closed my eyes and tried to pretend that I didn’t know whose hand it was.”