Tag Archives: monogamish

Consent is Sexy

I told you what was happening, and you bolted up. “Did you ask her if you could do that?” you demanded, more angry than I’ve ever seen you. I was a little worried that you’d start a fight, and I wasn’t sure you’d win. That guy was huge! Continue reading

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Big (Black) Cock

It was a great first date. He was tall, handsome and an easy conversationalist with an interesting job. Continue reading

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Breaking Up is Hard to Do

In the lifestyle, you’ll probably do more breaking up than hooking up. For every couple you say yes to, there will probably be several you have to say no to. Continue reading

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Other Voices, Other Rooms: Polyamory, Hotwifing, etc.

Some couples see a long term relationship as inherently susceptible to waning desire. Continue reading

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The Softest of Soft-Swaps

It was weird – in one sense, you could say it was a series of missteps and outright fails, yet somehow we ended up having so much sex we actually had to take two nights off after just to recover. Continue reading

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The Lifestyle has a Bi(g) Problem

I never want to feel that I was trapped by the conventions of my time, my choices limited by unreasoning prejudice. Continue reading

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Unleashing the Swinger Within

Like most people, I can tell when I’m being sold, and I push back instinctively. The key to my change of heart was that I never felt coerced or manipulated. Continue reading

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Slow to Respond

Low self-esteem comes in many varieties, and you will get to know your own unique brand if you spend any time in the lifestyle. Continue reading

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Our First FMF Threesome

Our first threesome together was my first, but it wasn’t yours. You came to our relationship with a friend who was good to go. Continue reading

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The House Party That Never Was

I’m generally not one for re-enacting classic porn tableaux but, honestly, it felt great. Continue reading

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