HIM: It’s funny — we’ve had so many fascinating experiences during the ten years that we’ve been in the lifestyle, but until recently we had never had that classic threesome with a ‘unicorn’ — the elusive unattached single woman — that so many couples pursue so ardently. HER: What are you talking about? Our earliest…
Author: Him and Her
Liam & Kate are a married couple, very much in love, writing honestly and insightfully about their adventures in the world of non-monogamy.
His Bisexual Journey
HER: There were eight of us on the two queen-sized beds that had been pushed together in Jess & Jeff’s hotel room. I had just finished fucking Evan and was cuddling with him when I looked over and saw you enjoying a blow job from Crystal. As she came up for air, Jason placed a…
The Guaranteed Erection
HIM: Earlier this year I received an intriguing note from AJ, a regular reader of our blog: “I enjoyed your most recent post, and am familiar with the performance anxiety issue. Erectile dysfunction is never a problem when alone with my wife, but can rear its head in ‘lifestyle’ encounters. Traditional oral medications are not…
Strong Feelings: My Wife Finds a Girlfriend
HER: The English language does not have an adequate word for that emotional place between ‘like’ and ‘love’. You know, that vast territory between I like my neighbor and I love my husband. Colloquially, we talk about feeling butterflies, crushing on someone, catching feels, or being ‘twitterpated‘ (thanks to Bambi). You and I dealt with the…
Antigua Diaries: More Than Just Sex
HER: Back in February, we wrote an article that started as a review of our sexual bucket lists and ended with a somewhat shocking epiphany. What I wanted most, it turned out, was a girlfriend. A walking-down-the-streets-holding-hands, can’t-stop-thinking-about-you-when-we’re-apart kind of girlfriend. I had always been turned on by depictions of passionate lesbian relationships in movies,…
Antigua Diaries: A Series of Sixsomes
HIM: I have to start by explaining a little something about myself. I’m an introvert. An unusually outgoing introvert, for sure, but an introvert all the same. Socializing exhausts me. As a result, I don’t like open-ended social engagements, even when group sex is on the menu. And I don’t travel with other people. I…
My First Gang Bang
HIM: I was in high school the first time I heard of a gang bang. It wasn’t in porn, but in Pliny the Elder’s Natural History. In Book X, published in the year 77 AD, he tells the story of Messalina, wife of the Emperor Claudius. She was a beautiful young noblewoman who, among her…
Desire Diaries: The Reunion Orgy
HER: Exactly one year, three months — and one pandemic — since our last trip to Desire, we were excited about returning for four days in June. We had been looking forward to a blissful reunion with Jay & Kay from the TCND (‘That Couple Next Door’) podcast and their friends from DC almost since…
Miami Diaries — The RoboCock
In May 2021 we spoke at a lifestyle gathering in Miami called Podcast-A-Palooza (PCAP). One hundred swinger couples from across North America gathered for four days of seminars and partying in South Beach. Unofficially, the event served as a kind of coming-out party after the privations of the Covid-19 pandemic. For us, it was…
Miami Diaries — Black N Kinky
In May 2021 we spoke at a lifestyle gathering in Miami called Podcast-A-Palooza. One hundred swinger couples from across North America gathered for three days of seminars and partying in South Beach. Unofficially, the event served as a kind of coming-out party after the privations of the Covid-19 pandemic. For us, it was four…
Miami Diaries — The 16-Hand Erotic Massage
In May 2021 we spoke at a lifestyle gathering in Miami called Podcast-A-Palooza. One hundred swinger couples from across North America gathered for three days of seminars and partying on South Beach. Unofficially, the event served as a kind of coming-out party after the privations of the Covid-19 pandemic. For us, it was the…
Miami Diaries — A Spontaneous Hotwife Experience
In May 2021 we spoke at a lifestyle gathering in Miami called Podcast-A-Palooza. One hundred swinger couples from across North America gathered for three days of seminars and partying on South Beach. Unofficially, the event served as a kind of coming out party after the privations of the Covid-19 pandemic. For us, it was the…