Author Archives: Him and Her

About Him and Her

We are a married couple, very much in love, writing about our sexual explorations.

Male Bisexuality: An Experiment

HIM:  In our first year of blogging, we’ve published 39 articles on our sexual adventures. We’ve written about threesomes and foursomes; cock size and boob jobs; sex clubs and lifestyle resorts. Which one do you think had the most readers? … Continue reading

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When life gets in the way: Anxiety and Sex

HER: F. Scott Fitzgerald famously said, “There are only the pursued, the pursuing, the busy, and the tired.” We’ve spent a lot of time being both the pursued and the pursuing in the sexual journey we’ve been on for the … Continue reading

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Consent is Sexy

I told you what was happening, and you bolted up. “Did you ask her if you could do that?” you demanded, more angry than I’ve ever seen you. I was a little worried that you’d start a fight, and I wasn’t sure you’d win. That guy was huge! Continue reading

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Nude Pool Party

  HIM: I’m not much for pools. I think of swimming as a handy skill to have if your canoe tips over, but not the kind of thing a person with options would do for fun. When it came time for us … Continue reading

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Big (Black) Cock

It was a great first date. He was tall, handsome and an easy conversationalist with an interesting job. Continue reading

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Real Talks: Massage Parlors

Until there are laws in place to regulate this industry and protect the women in it, I can’t imagine ever supporting it. Continue reading

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Hurts So Good

HER: On a recent weekend trip with our new favourite couple, I found myself on all fours while you knelt behind me, spanking my ass and pussy. I looked around at one point, and you, without anyone near your cock, … Continue reading

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Breaking Up is Hard to Do

In the lifestyle, you’ll probably do more breaking up than hooking up. For every couple you say yes to, there will probably be several you have to say no to. Continue reading

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Other Voices, Other Rooms

Some couples see a long term relationship as inherently susceptible to waning desire. Continue reading

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Real Talks: Sex and Drugs

It was a sad epiphany: I realized that an erection was a deeply mysterious involuntary reflex. Continue reading

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