Author Archives: Him and Her

About Him and Her

We are a married couple, very much in love, writing about our sexual explorations.

Naughty in N’awlins

Posted on August 31, 2019

At one party, I was grinding with a dude who told me to check out his shorts. It felt like he had a baseball bat on his leg! He grabbed my ass and asked how much I could take. I said nine inches was about my max. He said ‘I’m packing at least ten, but I promise to be gentle’. Continue reading →

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Swingers Take Italy

Posted on July 29, 2019

Marc Chagall, Nude Over Vitebsk, 1933 HIM: There are two kinds of travellers. Tourists take in all the sights, but never get past the superficial. They remain outsiders. Adventurers connect with real people. They get to see things from an … Continue reading →

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Anal Sex

Posted on July 12, 2019

Anal sex hasn’t exactly been an obsession of mine. While I think of it as very intimate, the act itself just doesn’t seem worth all the trouble. Every guide to anal sex talks about the importance of going slow, and using lots of lube, because the potential for pain and injury is always present. That seems like a lot of distraction when you’re just trying to have some fun. Continue reading →

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Breaking The Rules

Posted on May 18, 2019

I, as usual, was the first person naked at our party. I lay on the massage table with two handsome men rubbing me down, one of whom took his cock out so I could suck it while he stroked my breasts. Continue reading →

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Sex Therapy

Posted on April 14, 2019

It’s alarming for a man when you see a boob and it’s erotically indistinguishable from an elbow. When your wife says, “I’ll do anything you want,” and you can’t actually think of anything that would turn you on, you feel a deep sense of panic.  But I wasn’t the only one who was struggling to get sexually motivated. Continue reading →

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Mind the Gap: Age Differences in the Lifestyle

Posted on March 1, 2019

We’re 57 and 42, for the record. Age has always been something we have to think about a little more than the average couple. If I had been eighteen and you thirty-three when we got together, it would have been scandalous. Fifteen and thirty, and it would have been illegal! Continue reading →

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The Showdown: Hedonism II vs Desire Pearl

Posted on February 7, 2019

If we aren’t willing to be monogamous sexually, we certainly aren’t going to be faithful to a single resort. Continue reading →

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Podcast-A-Palooza

Posted on November 8, 2018

What was Podcast-A-Palooza, you ask?  Well, it was all about meeting and sharing and learning, to be sure, but it ultimately led to podcasters doing dirty things to other podcasters. Continue reading →

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Four Crazy Weekends

Posted on October 29, 2018

We’ve been very busy. In fact, last month was one for the record books – four lifestyle events, four weekends in a row. Continue reading →

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Assault and Harassment: Every Woman’s Story

Posted on October 8, 2018

HER: Like many women, I have watched in horror and awe the events of the last year. The wave of protests and #MeToo stories sparked by the Harvey Weinstein case (which broke almost exactly one year ago) seemed to crash … Continue reading →

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