At one point she cooed, “You’re so gentle”. At first I thought it was a compliment, but then I started to think otherwise.
Author: Him and Her
Liam & Kate are a married couple, very much in love, writing honestly and insightfully about their adventures in the world of non-monogamy.
Keeping Secrets
HER: We had a party at our house recently where, in a haze of whisky-laced apple cider and white wine, I told my siblings that we had tried sex clubs and vacationed at Hedonism. They all had the same conservative, religious upbringing I did, but, like me, they’re all very sexual and pretty liberal in their views. …
Manscaping
HER: Before our last trip to Jamaica, I went for a session of laser hair removal. It was a thoughtful Christmas gift from you. You knew I hated the red bikini bumps, and the last time I had the area waxed, it was so painful I swore I’d never do it again. Lasers, you thought, might…
The Greatest Threesome in the History of the World
HIM: When we were writing our article ‘The Quantified Sex Life’ a couple of weeks ago, I got caught up reading through the notes section of the sex log I keep. Usually I just jot down a sentence or two for each entry to help my memory, though occasionally I will try to capture what…
Our MFM Experiment: Getting it Right
HIM: Six weeks after our disastrous first experience with another man, we got a text from Derek saying he had some ideas about how we could do things differently if we wanted to try again. I met him for lunch to discuss them, and he suggested that we take some pictures of you as an…
Goldilocks and the Three Cocks
HER: One of the many things we love about our ‘lifestyle’ vacations is the opportunity to people watch. This is something we enjoy everywhere we go, but it takes on a new dimension when everyone is naked. While I like to look at both sexes, the men are especially interesting. Out on the beach, flaccid…
The Upside of Divorce
HER: We’ve all heard the statistics that tell us half of marriages today end in divorce (the actual stats are 41% of first marriages, 60% of second, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce). This is frightening if you are on the verge of marriage or reaching the age of 30: the average age…
The Quantified Sex Life
HER: There’s been a lot of talk lately about ‘The Quantified Life.’ I’ve heard a radio show and a TED talk about it just this week. There are apps to track your steps, caloric intake, sleep patterns, running, good deeds … and your sex life! Him and HerLiam & Kate are a married couple,…
Our First MFM Threesome: Part Two
HER: Two days before our first MFM threesome (two men/one woman) was to happen, we fell into having a threesome with my best friend, Malissa, by accident. A day around the pool without kids turned into naked swimming, then touching and then a trip to the bedroom. It turned out to be our best (and…
Our First MFM Threesome: Part One
HIM: It’s sometimes tempting to feel that your sexual fantasies are set very early on in life. After all, how many possibilities are there? How many body parts? How many positions before you get into the purely gymnastic? But I have to say that the thing that turns me on the most at present is…
Our First Sex Club Experience: The Visit
HIM: Once we decided we wanted to try the club scene, finding out where to go was as easy as googling the words ‘sex club’ along with the name of the nearest big city. It turned out we had a few options, so we decided to go with the one we had actually heard of….
Our First Sex Club Experience: The Preparation
HER: Within the first year of our relationship, we decided to try something we had both been curious about for a long time: the sex club scene. I had looked into a few local clubs in my twenties. My ex-husband and I had even set out one night to find the place, but we chickened…