HER: Back in February, we wrote an article that started as a review of our sexual bucket lists and ended with a somewhat shocking epiphany. What I wanted most, it turned out, was a girlfriend. A walking-down-the-streets-holding-hands, can’t-stop-thinking-about-you-when-we’re-apart kind of girlfriend. I had always been turned on by depictions of passionate lesbian relationships in movies,…
Antigua Diaries: A Series of Sixsomes
HIM: I have to start by explaining a little something about myself. I’m an introvert. An unusually outgoing introvert, for sure, but an introvert all the same. Socializing exhausts me. As a result, I don’t like open-ended social engagements, even when group sex is on the menu. And I don’t travel with other people. I…
Miami Diaries — Black N Kinky
In May 2021 we spoke at a lifestyle gathering in Miami called Podcast-A-Palooza. One hundred swinger couples from across North America gathered for three days of seminars and partying in South Beach. Unofficially, the event served as a kind of coming-out party after the privations of the Covid-19 pandemic. For us, it was four…
Friends With (So Many) Benefits
HER: One of the many beautiful things about our social swinger approach to the lifestyle is that we have made ‘friends with benefits’ all over the world. Last week, we were reminded of just how precious those friendships can be. Him and HerLiam & Kate are a married couple, very much in love, writing honestly…
Should We Tell Our Kids We’re Swingers?
HIM: Last week, Belle and Adam of the ‘Swinging Outside the Lines‘ podcast released an amazing episode for their patrons, surely unparalleled in the short (but illustrious) history of lifestyle podcasts. They recorded a ‘live reveal’, where they informed their 17-year-old daughter of their non-monogamous relationship. It was compelling listening, but also a challenge to…
My Wife Wants A Girlfriend
HIM: We have done so many amazing things in our lifestyle adventure – threesomes, foursomes, orgies, and more. HER: And we’ve done them in fascinating places — at swinger parties, sex clubs, and lifestyle vacation resorts, here in Canada and in other countries around the world. HIM: We’ve been really lucky. I feel grateful…
Just the Two of Us
HER: As people who have been non-monogamous from the beginning of our relationship, this period of enforced monogamy has been interesting. Sex between us has always been satisfying, but we’ve rarely had to work at keeping the spark alive. The lifestyle did that for us. HIM: Over the summer, since nearly everyone we knew was…
Adding Bondage to the Mix
When you think about it, the whole BDSM scene is about consensual violence, a total oxymoron if ever there was one.
Sexy Spa Sunday
The most interesting toy by far was one that another couple brought: an electro play set. It had sticky pads attached to a device that delivered varying levels of voltage directly to the skin. We passed it around and most people tried it on their arms or some other low-risk body part. I was daring enough to pull down my yoga pants and try it on my clit.
Sex on MDMA
So, this was it, that thing that everyone talks about! That amazing space where every touch, every smell, sets off fireworks in your senses.
My First Double Penetration
So there I was on top of you, carefully positioned so he could straddle your legs while still being between mine. It took a few adjustments, but he eventually got in and started thrusting. It was crazy intense!
The Single Male Experience
I know we did cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, doggy-style, him doing me from behind with me hanging my head over the edge of the bed, spooning, then positioned at the end of the bed so we could both watch him enter me in the mirrored headboard. We both loved that.