Like most people, I can tell when I’m being sold, and I push back instinctively. The key to my change of heart was that I never felt coerced or manipulated.
Tag: swinging
Hedo Diaries: Getting Ditched
One of the things I’ve enjoyed most about the lifestyle since we’ve been involved are the little moments of grace that happen without warning.
When life gets in the way: Anxiety and Sex
HER: F. Scott Fitzgerald famously said, “There are only the pursued, the pursuing, the busy, and the tired.” We’ve spent a lot of time being both the pursued and the pursuing in the sexual journey we’ve been on for the past few years, but these last six months have left us firmly in the last…
Consent is Sexy
I told you what was happening, and you bolted up. “Did you ask her if you could do that?” you demanded, more angry than I’ve ever seen you. I was a little worried that you’d start a fight, and I wasn’t sure you’d win. That guy was huge!
Nude Pool Party
HIM: I’m not much for pools. I think of swimming as a handy skill to have if your canoe tips over, but not the kind of thing a person with options would do for fun. When it came time for us to move in together, however, one of the features near the top of your wishlist was a backyard with…
Big. Black. Cock.
It was a great first date. He was tall, handsome and an easy conversationalist with an interesting job.
Breaking Up is Hard to Do
In the lifestyle, you’ll probably do more breaking up than hooking up. For every couple you say yes to, there will probably be several you have to say no to.
The Softest of Soft-Swaps
It was weird – in one sense, you could say it was a series of missteps and outright fails, yet somehow we ended up having so much sex we actually had to take two nights off after just to recover.
The Lifestyle has a Bi(g) Problem
I never want to feel that I was trapped by the conventions of my time, my choices limited by unreasoning prejudice.
Swinging with Insecurities
Low self-esteem comes in many varieties, and you will get to know your own unique brand if you spend any time in the lifestyle.
A European Swingers’ Paradise
The challenge for any club, anywhere, is to create a party vibe. Lameness and desperation are always lurking at the door.
Finally, Our First Full-Swap
HIM: Full-swap sex with another couple wasn’t part of any master plan as we set out on our great sexual adventure. I guess the truth was that we had no particular destination in mind, and that was probably a good thing. We simply put one foot in front of the other — together — just…