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How to Write a Great Online Profile

HER: Ten years ago, people would cringe when they admitted they had met online (if they admitted to it at all). Today, it’s surprising when new couples actually meet the old fashioned way: in person, by accident. With so much … Continue reading

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Dealing with Jealousy

HER: “We are jealous animals.” That’s how Dr Helen Fisher explained her belief that open marrriages don’t work when she was interviewed on a Canadian radio documentary called ‘How to Survive the Dating Apocalypse’. She said she would never entertain the … Continue reading

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Unleashing the Swinger Within

Like most people, I can tell when I’m being sold, and I push back instinctively. The key to my change of heart was that I never felt coerced or manipulated. Continue reading

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Hedo Diaries: Getting Ditched

One of the things I’ve enjoyed most about the lifestyle since we’ve been involved are the little moments of grace that happen without warning. Continue reading

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When life gets in the way: Anxiety and Sex

HER: F. Scott Fitzgerald famously said, “There are only the pursued, the pursuing, the busy, and the tired.” We’ve spent a lot of time being both the pursued and the pursuing in the sexual journey we’ve been on for the … Continue reading

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Consent is Sexy

I told you what was happening, and you bolted up. “Did you ask her if you could do that?” you demanded, more angry than I’ve ever seen you. I was a little worried that you’d start a fight, and I wasn’t sure you’d win. That guy was huge! Continue reading

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Nude Pool Party

HIM: I’m not much for pools. I think of swimming as a handy skill to have if your canoe tips over, but not the kind of thing a person with options would do for fun. When it came time for us to … Continue reading

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Big. Black. Cock.

It was a great first date. He was tall, handsome and an easy conversationalist with an interesting job. Continue reading

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Breaking Up is Hard to Do

In the lifestyle, you’ll probably do more breaking up than hooking up. For every couple you say yes to, there will probably be several you have to say no to. Continue reading

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The Softest of Soft-Swaps

It was weird – in one sense, you could say it was a series of missteps and outright fails, yet somehow we ended up having so much sex we actually had to take two nights off after just to recover. Continue reading

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