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Fear of Fucking

If opening up your relationship is a fantasy you hope to make a reality, you might imagine that having sex with other people is all fun and easy. Just mix three or more horny people together and let the carnal geometry unfold. If only! Continue reading

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Confessions of an Orgasm Faker

The empathy piece is a big factor for both of us. Maybe we struggle to come from oral simply because it’s hard for us to sit back and greedily enjoy anything. We’re both givers by nature, not takers. Maybe we’re just too nice to be good swingers. Continue reading

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Playing Separately

Yes, I remember that night. I wanted so badly for him to put his gorgeous cock in me, but I felt like I wasn’t allowed to take that next step until you were in the room. Continue reading

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Breaking The Rules

I, as usual, was the first person naked at our party. I lay on the massage table with two handsome men rubbing me down, one of whom took his cock out so I could suck it while he stroked my breasts. Continue reading

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Sex Therapy

It’s alarming for a man when you see a boob and it’s erotically indistinguishable from an elbow. When your wife says, “I’ll do anything you want,” and you can’t actually think of anything that would turn you on, you feel a deep sense of panic.  But I wasn’t the only one who was struggling to get sexually motivated. Continue reading

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Podcast-A-Palooza

What was Podcast-A-Palooza, you ask?  Well, it was all about meeting and sharing and learning, to be sure, but it ultimately led to podcasters doing dirty things to other podcasters. Continue reading

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Dick Pics

HIM: We recently watched the movie ‘Weiner’, a documentary directed by Josh Kriegman and Elyse Steinberg. You probably remember the story of Anthony Weiner, the New York state congressman who fell from grace in 2011 after he tweeted a picture … Continue reading

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Dealing with Jealousy

HER: “We are jealous animals.” That’s how Dr Helen Fisher explained her belief that open marrriages don’t work when she was interviewed on a Canadian radio documentary called ‘How to Survive the Dating Apocalypse’. She said she would never entertain the … Continue reading

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Who Can You Trust?

When something exciting happens to me, my first instinct is to tell someone about it. But what if that amazing thing was that you had eight people in your basement last weekend all tangled up in your first orgy? Who can you tell? Continue reading

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The Instruction Manual: What Turns Us On

I remember thinking that it was pretty bold of him to attempt the rough stuff on our first time together, but he got it just right. It was only later that I realized he had studied up in advance. Continue reading

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