Tag Archives: marriage

Consent is Sexy

I told you what was happening, and you bolted up. “Did you ask her if you could do that?” you demanded, more angry than I’ve ever seen you. I was a little worried that you’d start a fight, and I wasn’t sure you’d win. That guy was huge! Continue reading

Posted in Perspectives | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Other Voices, Other Rooms: Polyamory, Hotwifing, etc.

Some couples see a long term relationship as inherently susceptible to waning desire. Continue reading

Posted in Perspectives, Relationships, Swapping | Tagged , , , , , | 3 Comments

The Softest of Soft-Swaps

It was weird – in one sense, you could say it was a series of missteps and outright fails, yet somehow we ended up having so much sex we actually had to take two nights off after just to recover. Continue reading

Posted in Swapping | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

The Lifestyle has a Bi(g) Problem

I never want to feel that I was trapped by the conventions of my time, my choices limited by unreasoning prejudice. Continue reading

Posted in Perspectives | Tagged , , , , , , | 9 Comments

Unleashing the Swinger Within

Like most people, I can tell when I’m being sold, and I push back instinctively. The key to my change of heart was that I never felt coerced or manipulated. Continue reading

Posted in Swapping | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Slow to Respond

Low self-esteem comes in many varieties, and you will get to know your own unique brand if you spend any time in the lifestyle. Continue reading

Posted in Perspectives, Relationships | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

A European Swingers’ Paradise

The challenge for any club, anywhere, is to create a party vibe. Lameness and desperation are always lurking at the door. Continue reading

Posted in Vacations | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 7 Comments

A Letter from My Former Self

If it doesn’t overwhelm you, the bittersweet ache of longing can provide the impetus to make difficult changes Continue reading

Posted in Perspectives, Relationships | Tagged , , | Leave a comment

The House Party That Never Was

I’m generally not one for re-enacting classic porn tableaux but, honestly, it felt great. Continue reading

Posted in Clubs/Parties, Swapping | Tagged , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Online Dating for Couples

I imagined us meeting the perfect couple, sharing a connection that moved effortlessly between the social and the sexual. Continue reading

Posted in Perspectives, Relationships, Swapping | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment