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The Hot-Button issue of ‘Hot-Wifing’

Anyone who knows me well knows that I have a hard-on (figuratively) for all things British. So when a very handsome man who lives close by says that he’s an actor from England, well, the next sentence practically writes itself: “Would you like to get together for a drink sometime?” Continue reading

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Men and Affairs

HIM: In the April 6th edition of The New York Times, I read an impressive article by Karin Jones entitled What Sleeping With Married Men Taught Me About Infidelity. First of all, simply writing the piece under her own name … Continue reading

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Dealing with Jealousy

HER: “We are jealous animals.” That’s how Dr Helen Fisher explained her belief that open marrriages don’t work when she was interviewed on a Canadian radio documentary called ‘How to Survive the Dating Apocalypse’. She said she would never entertain the … Continue reading

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Unleashing the Swinger Within

Like most people, I can tell when I’m being sold, and I push back instinctively. The key to my change of heart was that I never felt coerced or manipulated. Continue reading

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Consent is Sexy

I told you what was happening, and you bolted up. “Did you ask her if you could do that?” you demanded, more angry than I’ve ever seen you. I was a little worried that you’d start a fight, and I wasn’t sure you’d win. That guy was huge! Continue reading

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Other Voices, Other Rooms: Polyamory, Hotwifing, Open, and everything in between

Some couples see a long term relationship as inherently susceptible to waning desire. Continue reading

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The Softest of Soft-Swaps

It was weird – in one sense, you could say it was a series of missteps and outright fails, yet somehow we ended up having so much sex we actually had to take two nights off after just to recover. Continue reading

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The Lifestyle has a Bi(g) Problem

I never want to feel that I was trapped by the conventions of my time, my choices limited by unreasoning prejudice. Continue reading

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Swinging with Insecurities

Low self-esteem comes in many varieties, and you will get to know your own unique brand if you spend any time in the lifestyle. Continue reading

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A European Swingers’ Paradise

The challenge for any club, anywhere, is to create a party vibe. Lameness and desperation are always lurking at the door. Continue reading

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