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When life gets in the way: Anxiety and Sex

HER: F. Scott Fitzgerald famously said, “There are only the pursued, the pursuing, the busy, and the tired.” We’ve spent a lot of time being both the pursued and the pursuing in the sexual journey we’ve been on for the … Continue reading

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Consent is Sexy

I told you what was happening, and you bolted up. “Did you ask her if you could do that?” you demanded, more angry than I’ve ever seen you. I was a little worried that you’d start a fight, and I wasn’t sure you’d win. That guy was huge! Continue reading

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Big (Black) Cock

It was a great first date. He was tall, handsome and an easy conversationalist with an interesting job. Continue reading

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Real Talks: Massage Parlors

Until there are laws in place to regulate this industry and protect the women in it, I can’t imagine ever supporting it. Continue reading

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Hurts So Good

HER: On a recent weekend trip with our new favourite couple, I found myself on all fours while you knelt behind me, spanking my ass and pussy. I looked around at one point, and you, without anyone near your cock, … Continue reading

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Breaking Up is Hard to Do

In the lifestyle, you’ll probably do more breaking up than hooking up. For every couple you say yes to, there will probably be several you have to say no to. Continue reading

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Real Talks: Sex and Drugs

It was a sad epiphany: I realized that an erection was a deeply mysterious involuntary reflex. Continue reading

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The Softest of Soft-Swaps

It was weird – in one sense, you could say it was a series of missteps and outright fails, yet somehow we ended up having so much sex we actually had to take two nights off after just to recover. Continue reading

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The Lifestyle has a Bi(g) Problem

I never want to feel that I was trapped by the conventions of my time, my choices limited by unreasoning prejudice. Continue reading

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Unleashing the Swinger Within

Like most people, I can tell when I’m being sold, and I push back instinctively. The key to my change of heart was that I never felt coerced or manipulated. Continue reading

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